A soon-to-dad has said he is refusing to name his daughter in memory of his wife’s mother as he’s worried it will lead to their child being bullied “throughout her life”.
He explains that he and his wife recently found out they are expecting a little girl and, having never previously discussed baby names, agreed each of them had the right to veto suggestions they didn’t like.
After discussing possible names, both parents revealed they would like to name their daughter after their late mothers.
The dad said he refused to entertain the idea of naming their baby after his wife’s mother, whose name was Karen, through fear it would always carry links to the meme associated with the name.
He wrote: “I told her the baby can take my mum’s name as her first name and her mum’s name as a middle name, or have an entirely different name, but I can’t okay ‘Karen’ as a first name in any case.
“She got offended because she just wants to honor her mother and thinks I have a problem with that. I just don’t want to set our daughter up to be bullied throughout her life.
“I told her I’d be fine with whatever first name she picks as long as it doesn’t lead to the baby being picked on later in life, but she’s pretty insistent on Karen.”
After asking for advice on Reddit, some were in agreement with the dad, as one replied to say: “It was a normal name, now it’s a joke. Imagine ‘baby Karen’. People are gonna make jokes all her life.”
A second said: “Karen isn’t just a phase or fad, it isn’t just a meme anymore either. It’s pretty much the definition of middle aged entitlement, and I highly doubt that definition is going anywhere in the next 20 years.”
But others disagreed, arguing: “It’s a joke with our generation. It’s doubtful it will be a joke in hers.”
Following the feedback, the dad provided an update to say they had discussed the situation and his wife had said that ever since her mum died when she was just 14, she had always planned to name her daughter in her memory – and had never had to consider a meme to be a potential obstacle.
He said he withdrew the veto and agreed with comments which suggested the name wouldn’t have the same association by the time their daughter grew up.
However, the parents decided to compromise after finding their mothers both had the same middle name of Elizabeth, and chose that name to honour them both instead.